The Main Object of Conciliation Lies in Reaching a Solution to a Case based upon Morals and with a Warm Heart.”
Confucius Analects c. 500 B.C
So, are Confucius’s archaic words of wisdom applicable in todays’ litigious society? Initially, we may say “NO”, especially when considering that we are trained to put on our boxing gloves when we walk into family Court. What was it that Ivana Trump said during her Divorce to Donald Trump, “Don’t get mad – get everything!” Is it possible to have civility with divorce? The answer lies within each of us who faces a situation of conflict with another person.
What is Conciliation? It means bringing two opposing sides together to reach a compromise in an attempt to avoid taking a case to trial. Why is this important? It saves you time, heartache, stress and money. If there are minor children involved, it can drastically reduce pain and suffering on the part of the children. The simple fact of the matter is that it is the parties who are involved in the dispute – who control the outcome of the case.
Most individuals do not realize that when they walk into a courtroom for trial that there is usually one winner and one loser. This does not always need to be the case. Both parties can win if they work together. If you take the emotion out of divorce and the gamesmanship out of the law, it will be the parties who win – not the lawyers. There are many opportunities for the parties to work together to resolve disputes early on. Said opportunities include: Mediation, Collaborative Divorce Proceedings, Counseling, or negotiating the terms of a Martial Settlement Agreement with the advice of counsel, instead of battling it out in Court.
So, the million-dollar question is… “What do you want out of your divorce?”
If your plan is to inflict pain on the other person, then you plan is not of good moral character. Whatever the dispute is, always remember that those involved are people with feelings, short-comings, and insecurities. These humans tend not to look objectively at their situation or with a long-reaching eye to the consequences of their immediate desires. Reaching a solution to a dispute requires morals and a warm heart. The Horton Law Group, P.A. encourages you to take the high road in family Court. Whatever path you choose, we will hold your hand and journey down “dissolution” road with you, while at the same time, providing you with any type of representation that may be required for your individual case.
This Article was written by Attorney, Sommer C. Horton. If you have questions about the content of this Article or about Florida Dissolution Proceedings, please feel free to contact her directly at 561-299-0018.